Most of us suck at apologizing, in part, because we suck at taking accountability. Some might say it’s a generational or cultural problem, but in reality I think it’s a human problem derived from our evolutionary instinct to avoid discomfort. Admitting a wrong-doing can be a painful process, but sometimes a lack of admission can cause even greater pain (for everybody involved). Having said that, apologies are really a very necessary and powerful social tool, and can be delivered successfully in most situations with just a few simple steps. Read more
Being a new mom can be a real bitch sometimes. With all the love and excitement and cuddles, come other, less warm-fuzzy things. But general enjoying of the newborn experience is possible if you can focus on what’s important, and forget about fussy details and silly societal standards. To maintain sanity, avoid these top 7 new-mom mistakes. Read more
Cinderella didn’t need a fancy dress and a pumpkin with wheels to get the Prince; she just needed some support in realizing her potential so she could show up to the ball as the best version of herself. Her support came from a fairy godmother cloaked in a blue robe, carrying a wand. So when I needed some support in exploring my potential, I began the search for a fairy godmother of my own. She turned out to be a tiny tattooed Laotian woman with a white board and a laser pointer. Read more
People will tell you that you can’t have your cake and eat it too. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never met a slice of cake I didn’t take a bite out of. I have it, and I eat it. And it’s glorious. So I say, bake yourself a giant cake, eat some, and share the leftovers. Because in life, it IS possible to have it all. It may not be easy, but it’s possible. And while we each uniquely define the “all” that we desire, there are 10 sure-fire ways to go after it. Read more
I’m a life-long Iowan, and fall is my favorite season. Let me tell you why. Read more
I haven’t blogged lately. But I have consumed a few monster cookies and a bag of mini Twix (while I watched the documentary Fed Up). Yes…I fell off the wagon. Read more
Here’s the deal…baby-talk and constant coddling are crap. I firmly believe that social norms have developed into a complete lack of progressive parenting. Children’s mental, emotional, and social development is hindered by parents inability to be firm and verbal. Suddenly our youth are dictating what goes on in their lives and it seems a lot of adults are down with just sitting back and watching their kids turn into asses. Read more
They say that psychologically, your odds of successfully tackling a goal are much higher if you prioritize and do one thing at a time. So, my commitment to rekindling my relationship with my health began with ridding my body of candy and desserts. The first 2-3 weeks were rough, but successful. And as the cravings subsided, I knew it was time for step 2: stepping up my game in the gym. Read more
If you missed Part 1, and why I started this 60-day journey of sugar detox, click here.
I love sugar. But we need to break-up. Sugar doesn’t treat me (or anybody else) well. Sugar is an asshole. Read more
I’m Abi. And I’m addicted to sugar. I’m not talking about the cute, random piece of chocolate cravings. I’m talking about a bag of jelly beans for breakfast, 4 packs of sugar in half a cup of coffee, or a dinner of sugar covered cherry slices. It’s bad. And the truth is, while I may not appear to be unhealthy, I’m doing things to my blood sugar and body that would make even the Easter Bunny cringe. Since I was young, I’ve had a sweet tooth that could rival any addict. And I’ve worked on it a lot in my adult years. But I’m far from perfect. I could count my relapses on 4 hands…ok, 5. But today, I recommit myself to my health. Read more
The world of sexting can be a difficult one to navigate. With endless combinations of words, pictures, and videos, a person is left with their imagination and sexual prowess (or lack there of) to skillfully orchestrate a racy arrangement. Think music; some prefer the intense sound of heavy metal, while others prefer playful pop tunes. So today, I share some guidelines to help keep your sexting in tune.
I love sharing new products, places, and people I dig. Today, I introduce you to 3 of my new favorite websites. Home decor and furniture, workout gear, and photo editing made-easy and free. Read on. Read more
For the majority of CrossFitters, The Open is an experience, not a qualifier. Most of us aren’t going to Regionals or Games, but it doesn’t change the fact that we invest time and energy to participating. And knowing what mentality to have going into this worldwide event is important for anybody. Athletes register, wait for announcements, and try their best when it’s “go” time, but addressing what success means for a typical athlete is often neglected. So I’m providing top tips for guaranteed Open success for the “average Joe” athletes of the world.
I’m a lover. A hopeless romantic. So theoretically Valentine’s Day should be my jam. But I find it all a bit tiresome. Red and pink splattered about, shelves piled high with cards containing meaningless words, gross heart-shaped candy, and half-ass roses shipped out in bulk. Is this the best expression of love we can come up with…a scheduled day filled with commercialized products attempting to strike love into hearts like a chubby cupid’s arrow. It’s not the kind of romance I want. To celebrate with a little more spunk than the lackluster barrage of cheesy crap, try these tips. Read more
I’m frequently exposed to rumblings of stubborn big bellies…in part because I enjoy the company of people who eat delicious food and consume alcohol, but also because a large part of my time is spent in my gym where folks have a tendency to express their bodily frustrations. But I’m here to help. And bellies, no matter how big or small, are best addressed with 3 combined courses of action. Read more
Society has a lot of woe-is-me folks. And it’s annoying. So I’d like to throw out a suggestion; stop whining and seek happiness. Actively. Read more
They say it’s better to give than receive. Sure. But lets not fool ourselves. There isn’t a person out there who doesn’t dig getting a really killer gift. They also say it’s the thought that counts. My theory is a little different. If you thought things out, every gift would be a success. And holidays prove that it’s possible to get some real turds. So what are the best and worst gifts to give for Christmas? Here are 10 steadfast tips for present purchasing. Read more
First dates can make or break a potential relationship. And while some people might speculate that you’ll know in moments whether it’s meant to be, I’d guess most of those people are still single. A relationship goes beyond a fleeting gut feeling or a momentary physical attraction. It begins with a quick judgement (we’re human and we can’t help it), but thrives on positive experiences. So even if you’re not into somebody in the first few moments, there’s no reason to shut the door and throw away the key. And certainly no reason to be an asshole. Create a positive experience, so there is opportunity if you choose to pursue. Or even a new friendship or connection. Here are a few simple tips for a successful first date. Read more
Tomorrow, I’ll get sentimental. But today, I wanted to share my favorite ridiculous things to be thankful for. Read more
When I announced my plans to get implants, most of my friends and family frowned mildly upon the decision. There was a bit of a stigma attached to the idea of fake boobs. Only the most vain women would dare cut their chest open to insert bags of silicone, right? Breast augmentation is expensive, and came with some risks, not to mention the maintenance of the suggested replacement period of 10 years. But for me, after years of consideration, it was the right choice. Read more